How are you? Really.

How are you? Really.

Hi! How are you?
Good. How are you?
Good.

How many times have we had that conversation? *tries to count*

So, I asked you how you are right now, would you say “good”?

Good is one of those throw-away words. According to the dictionary, it can mean anything from pleasurable to being approved of to having the qualities desired for a particular role. It doesn’t really mean much as there are no descriptors or specifics.

When someone says “good” to me, I ask if they can explain. I want to hear something that isn’t automatic. I want to know more. I want deeper. I want real.

If I asked you right now how you are, what would you WANT to say?

There’s a war going on – I’m scared!
There’s an election happening – I’m worried!
The housing market feels unstable – I’m uncomfortable.
I’m working on a new offering for clients – I’m excited!
I’m having a baby – I’m thrilled!
I’m going on vacation soon – I’m ready!

That’s SO much more real. I can understand all of that. I can feel you in it. I believe you.

What if we took it a step further? What if I asked you to tell me how you were feeling, yet you had to be completely UNFILTERED? What would you say then?

You’d probably look around to see if anyone was watching, lean in closer, and whisper it.

You might share about how your job doesn’t feel as stable, how your team is underperforming, how your marriage isn’t as happy as it looks, how you’re body doesn’t feel as healthy as it used to, how you aren’t sleeping very well because of the stress at work, how you wish you could do the work you really want to do, how you didn’t handle that last client situation as well as you wanted, how this war overseas is causing you anxiety, how you want to call up that one “friend” and tell him off, how the world feels a bit unstable, and how you don’t know what to do about any of it.

You also might share about how your kid just won an award in school, how your significant other is crushing it at work, how loved your dog makes you feel when you get home from work, how you cooked a meal for yourself last night that felt like love, how your best friend called and you laughed for an hour, how you finally bought yourself that new car and drove it nowhere all afternoon just because, how you meditated for 15 minutes (finally!), how you almost fit into your favorite jeans, and how you dream of celebrating your next birthday with your besties in the Bahamas.

So, why don’t you share those things out loud?

I once had a client who said she didn’t want to share much on social media because she was worried she’d get canceled, bullied, or go viral for the wrong reason. She didn’t want to ruin her reputation, yet she was also too scared to build it.

This sentiment is shared by most people. There are few brave enough to share their real selves with the world. Few who will be real enough to take a stance for what they believe in. Even fewer willing to be vulnerable enough to share more than “good.”

What if I told you that you HAD to share your feelings out loud? On social media? On a stage? In front of all of your friends and family? With the whole world?

What if I told you that you couldn’t hold back just because it might hurt someone else’s feelings? Or it might make someone mad? Or it might make someone think you are arrogant or selfish? Or it might make someone not like you?

What if I told you that you filtering yourself with GOOD is keeping you small?

What if I told you that everything you want is on the other side of GOOD?

Would you be mad at me? Would you hate me? Would you think I was a terrible person? GREAT! I don’t care.

Wanna know why I don’t care? Because I care about YOU.

I’m tired of watching you pretend everything is ok. I’m tired of watching you say you’re making the money you’re not really making. I’m tired of you telling everyone everything is GOOD when you go home and suffer in silence. I’m tired of you being lonely – wishing for people to talk to about what’s really going on, yet keeping yourself quiet so you don’t upset anyone. I’m tired of you keeping it all to yourself for months until you explode in a ball of fury and no one understands what happened. I’m tired of you wishing for more, yet staying quiet and small.

If I asked you how you are right now, what would you say if you were done playing small?
What would you say if you were UNFILTERED?

Take one step – it doesn’t have to be a big one. Say something – ANYTHING – other than “good.”

Let’s start over.
HI! How are you?
(Your turn.)

 

 

Episode 13: Cliffhangers, Bookendings, & that Damn Cheeseburger

Episode 13: Cliffhangers, Bookendings, & that Damn Cheeseburger

Welcome to The Intentional Story Podcast!

It sure is hard to believe, but season 1 has almost come and gone. We have a couple of loose ends to tie up for you all, so on this episode of The Intentional Story Podcast, we are resolving cliffhangers and bookending the first season.

How we format the stories we tell can completely change the impact of our words – in both negative and positive ways. Taking the time to intentionally structure a story can build and resolve tension powerfully for your audience.

Spend some time with us as we each tell a story or two, intentionally.

We want to hear you, we want to connect with you, and we want to help you tell your stories, intentionally.

Love,
Maggie, Melanie & Nate

 


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Episode 12: OMG! WE’RE ALL IN THE SAME ROOM!

Episode 12: OMG! WE’RE ALL IN THE SAME ROOM!

Welcome to The Intentional Story Podcast!

Together for the first time EVER, we recorded this episode in Denver right before our very last SPEAK With Confidence Retreat. 14 Rockstars were making their way to us, so why not talk about manifesting, confidence, and what it looks like to show up perfectly you?

On this episode of The Intentional Story Podcast, we talk about whether we see ‘manifesting’ as whoo-whoo or concrete, depending on how the idea was first presented to us. Melanie also walks us through the simple version of #manifestthatshit – a process that takes work and intention.

So what do you want to manifest? Are you interested in doing the work it takes to actually decide what you want and run after it? 

Let’s manifest some shit together!

We want to hear you, we want to connect with you, and we want to help you tell your stories, intentionally.

Love,
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(p.s.- if you want a little extra joy in your life, be sure to watch the recording of this episode. You won’t regret it.)


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Episode 11: A Layman’s Guide to the Enneagram

Episode 11: A Layman’s Guide to the Enneagram

Welcome to The Intentional Story Podcast!

There are a million different ways for the world to categorize us – that can be good or bad, depending on the motivation behind it. One of the favorite ways to do that in the last 30 years is through personality tests (Myers-Briggs, DISC, StrengthsFinder, etc.). We want people to tell us who we are – it’s a lot of work to take that journey on our own. Why are we fascinated by personality tests? What are we really trying to learn from them?

On this episode of The Intentional Story Podcast, Maggie walks us through another one of these self-awareness journeys – the Enneagram. Now, Maggie is not an expert by any means, but has taken a novice fascination in it, so be sure to do your own research if you want to know more!

The Enneagram gives us a helpful context around how you see the world, and how we see the world influences how we tell stories. Jump in with us as we try to know ourselves better – and learn with us as we try to tell more meaningful stories. Then go take the “test” here.

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Episode 10: The Stories of Generations

Episode 10: The Stories of Generations

Welcome to The Intentional Story Podcast!

Did you know that the things our parents, grandparents, great-grandparents (and on and on) did get passed down to us? The experiences of our families make huge imprints on us, whether we are aware of it or not.

Take some time with us on this episode of The Intentional Story Podcast to sift through some of our own personal generational stories and the impact they have on each of us – the way we process, the things we fear, the hopes we have. 

Generational stories are the foundations of our lives – how are yours affecting you?

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Episode 9: Your Life’s Chapter Headings

Episode 9: Your Life’s Chapter Headings

Welcome to The Intentional Story Podcast!

What doesn’t kill you makes you… more of who you were meant to be. Start this episode of The Intentional Story Podcast with us as we “circle back” on a few things (and touch on our hate/hate relationship with that phrase). Melanie recaps how her talk from episode 8 went and how she used the bookending technique to tie her talk together beautifully. 

We have mentioned the idea of ‘chapter headings’ over and over again on this podcast, and we finally get to talk about what those really mean! If you know Nate at all, you know that he has developed the idea of chapter headings for his work training other actors. Our chapter headings are the events or circumstances or experiences that we go through that shape the people we are today – the epic things we look back on and see that we were profoundly impacted. 

Join us for a fascinating conversation about the big things that happen in our lives, how they shape us, and what we can do with that knowledge

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