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Courageously Humble Confidence Meets The Stage

Courageously Humble Confidence Meets The Stage

Great leaders aren’t remembered for being great because of what they said – but for who they were as humans. The top 3 leaders of all time – Gandhi, Mandela, and MLK – wrote & gave great speeches, but we remember them for WHO they were and HOW they lived, not just for what they said. Each of them had courageously humble confidence in their ability to change the world. We believed in them because of their belief in themselves.

On Saturday morning, I had the honor of kicking off the #ESPAconference with my opening keynote, LEAD With Confidence. It was my first speaking gig in 2 months and as I got started, I was feeling the energy of the room and flowing with it. Until I realized the clicker for my slides wasn’t working. At all.

I started bantering with the audience, saying NEXT! to the tech team, and watched my sweet husband run to the back of the room to help advance my slides. It was an audience full of meeting planners – a PERFECT audience to understand that this wasn’t a little thing. I mentioned that I teach speakers how to handle situations like this – and that this must be happening so I could prove to them that it really does happen. I worked the mishap into my talk and had the audience cracking up every time I said “NEXT!” I had to keep going with or without my slides because I was the show, so – on with the show!

By the time it got fixed, I was already halfway through my talk, making the audience do awkward (such fun) things like stare at each other in order to see how their energy connected them to each other, and telling lots of stories. I was also noticing parts of the talk I had planned and missed – nuggets I wanted to share that were important. I was frustrated with myself for forgetting them – it was my JOB to remember them. I even forgot to wrap it up the way I planned – bookending it as I train my speakers to.

Except, guess what?! NO ONE KNEW. No one walked up to me at the end and said “you missed a few things.” No one knew I had missed anything. I was the only person who knew I didn’t say what I planned. And that takes courageously humble confidence to keep going despite my inner gremlins yelling at me – telling me what a loser I was for forgetting things. “Great speakers wouldn’t forget that stuff – obviously you’re not that great.” HA! No way… I’m AMAZING! A-M-A-Z-I-N-G! AMAZING! Forget you, gremlins!

Am I going to tighten up my talk? You bet. Did everyone in the audience walk away with tons of takeaways? Heck yeah! ESPA even got photos of lots of people with TONS of notes from my talk. Am I proud of myself for kicking off the year with a kickass talk? I sure am. Will I let this little incident deter me from sharing my message with the world? From teaching leaders how to be great? HELL no.

Raise your hand if you’ve had a mishap in front of a group of people. (You just raised your hand, didn’t you?) We’ve ALL had the shit hit the fan in front of others. We’ve all fallen flat on our face, tripped over the imaginary bump in the floor, or stuck our foot in our mouth. If you’ve ever spoken on a stage, you KNOW that it comes with the territory.

Great leaders aren’t remembered for being great because of what they said – it’s for WHO they were as humans and HOW they lead. I’m a human. Everyone in my audience was a human. Humans fail. It comes with the territory. It was HOW I handled the situation that mattered – NOT what I said.

When the shit hits the fan, how will you react? Sometimes you won’t even know until you’re in that situation. When you’re a true leader, you’ll know exactly what to do – even if you are watching yourself failing miserably. It comes from the courageously humble confidence you’ve been cultivating inside yourself – because you’re always learning, always growing.

Big stages can be one of the scariest places to have tough things happen – unless you’re trained to make the best of it. Then you can make bad things into memorable things. Everything I have learned from 10+ years of rocking stages (good and bad) is in SPEAK With Confidence – so you can learn from my failures AND successes along with other Rockstars just like you.

I even created a FREE training: How To Write A Stage-Worthy Talk In Under 45 Minutes for ANYONE to learn how to say what they need to say in front of an audience of one or many. I don’t think it’s fair to keep everything for just the keynote speakers or people who have the time and resources to come to Denver to rock a real stage with me. It’s all yours – free.

When it’s time to stand up and say what you need to say EVEN if you know you’ll fail, you’ll know what to do. You are a courageously humble and confident human. I can see that you are. It’s time you see it, too.
xoxo
Melanie

 


I want you to show up & show off in your next talk. 

The SPEAK With Confidence Retreat began because I wanted a safe space to grow as a keynote speaker. Now, we are the ONLY public speaking retreat where you can write your next talk, practice on a real stage with lights & sound, AND go live in front of an audience to show off your newly honed skills.

Now, it’s your turn. Whether you want stop being afraid of the stage OR get paid bigger fees for speaking, we’re ready for you.
In-Person Retreat: ispeakwithconfidence.com
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Practice Your Face Off (but not literally)

Practice Your Face Off (but not literally)

"Practice does not make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect." – Vince Lombardi



Who's ready to jump into Chapter 7 of the SPEAK With Confidence podcast series?! Did you already finish Chapter 1: Brainstorming Like a Boss, Chapter 2: Just Be Yourself (but better), Chapter 3: Organize Your Talk (for maximum impact) , Chapter 4: Getting It Together (just don’t get too attached), Chapter 5: Memorizing (without memorizing) and Chapter 6: Sell Your Talk (without selling)? (Go listen if you haven't before you jump in here.)


DELIVER YOUR TALK: Practicing Your Talk


THIS EPISODE SIMPLIFIED: We’ve come to the final chapter of the SPEAK With Confidence podcast series. You’ve collected your IP, written and memorized your talk, got all the language to sell yourself and are ready for the final step: Practicing!



Let’s jump into Chapter 7: Practice Your Face Off (but not literally). Just because this is the end, doesn't mean you are done. I know – practice does NOT make perfect – but it sure makes you more comfortable on stage. It’s important that you never stop practicing – even when you’ve given your talk a million times.



I’ll share what I’ve learned over years about stage presence, being an inviting speaker, and how to get your audience engaged. But before we get started on all the things to DO on stage, I have one big DON’T to share.



Listen to the podcast to find out my big DON'T:




You can watch Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk on power posing here. And check out how SPEAK With Confidence alumni, AJ Gibson, uses the stage in spite of his height to be more inviting on stage: (also, grab his book: Flipping The Script – I'm in it!)

 




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SPEAK With Confidence CLUSTER: Listen to this Cluster of Awesomeness here



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Sell Your Talk (without selling)

Sell Your Talk (without selling)

"Most people think "selling" is the same as "talking". But the most effective salespeople know that listening is the most important part of their job."


– Roy Bartell



Who's ready to jump into Chapter 6 of the SPEAK With Confidence podcast series?! Did you already finish Chapter 1: Brainstorming Like a Boss, Chapter 2: Just Be Yourself (but better), Chapter 3: Organize Your Talk (for maximum impact), Chapter 4: Getting It Together (just don’t get too attached), and Chapter 5: Memorizing (without memorizing)? (Go listen if you haven't before you jump in here.)

 


DELIVER YOUR TALK: SELL Your Talk (without selling)


THIS EPISODE SIMPLIFIED: Now that you have your talk written – how do you get the right people (conference organizers AND attendees) to listen to your talk?



Let’s jump into Chapter 6: Sell Your Talk (without selling). Few are great at selling their talk in a way that gets the right people to want to listen to them. In this chapter, I’ll explain how best to write your talk title, talk description and speaker bio in a way that will get them to want to listen. I’ll give you tips & tricks on how to make sure your audience knows this talk is all about them. Catch an organizer’s attention – and write a readable speaker bio so the person announcing you will get the audience AND you pumped to go on stage!



Start with your talk description, THEN create a kickass title. Once those two pieces are done, we'll rip apart your boring bio & why you SHOULDN’T include your family in it. Don’t worry, I’ll talk you through it.



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Get more tips on how to get paid to speak with my 20-Point Speaker Checklist or dive even deeper with my actual booking manager, Michelle, at the SPEAK With Confidence Accelerator.



As I mentioned, stay tuned to hear Colin's incredible story after this October's SPEAK With Confidence Accelerator.



SPEAK With Confidence: Stop wishing you were on that stage & write the dang talk: ispeakwithconfidence.com I'll even send you the fancy-schmancy workbook you're hearing about.



SPEAK With Confidence CLUSTER: Listen to this Cluster of Awesomeness here


 



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Memorizing (without memorizing)

Memorizing (without memorizing)

"Memory is the diary we all carry about with us."


– Oscar Wilde


Who's ready to jump into Chapter 5 of the SPEAK With Confidence podcast series?! Did you already finish Chapter 1: Brainstorming Like a Boss, Chapter 2: Just Be Yourself (but better), Chapter 3: Organize Your Talk (for maximum impact) and Chapter 4: Getting It Together (just don’t get too attached)? (Go listen if you haven't before you jump in here.)



For week 5, we’re finally jumping into Module 2: Delivering your talk.


DELIVER YOUR TALK: Memorizing


THIS EPISODE SIMPLIFIED: Once your talk is written out, you can break it down into easy-to-remember steps that will make sure you never forget where you are – even if you go off on a tangent.



Let’s jump into Chapter 5: Memorizing (without memorizing). One of the scariest thing about being a public speaker comes after you’ve brainstormed your big idea, figured out your dictionary, created a beautiful outline and wrote out a fantastic talk – it's memorizing! If you’re freaking out about remembering a 45-minute keynote – don’t. I have a simple method that you can use for everything from your short demo video to a full day workshop.



This simple method includes a 20 Points breakdown along with a Take 5 breakdown to get you to remember the basics – because you already know your content. Memorizing isn't memorizing if you already know what you're going to say – so let's hack the system and make sure you know what you're going to say next without sounding like a robot.



We even go through everything “demo video” – why you should have one, how to get one, and how the hunt for creating a great demo video for my speaking career led to building SPEAK With Confidence.



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Since this is also the episode of #alltheshoutouts – I’ll let you meet all the fantastic people that have helped make SPEAK With Confidence what it is.



Patrick Frank of Patchbay Media and his team have been a part of the process from the start. They’ve made all the fantastic videos in the course and make the demo videos from our yearly live event.



Dan Russell is an amazing neuromarketer, founder of Speaking of Brilliance, my boyfriend, and has been essential to developing the online portion of SPEAK With Confidence.



Lisa Hoover is the ah-mazing designer behind my personal brand. She’s worked with companies huge and small and is absolutely incredible at what she does. If you like my brand, she's the reason.



Mindy Black is an Air Force Intelligence Briefer, all-around incredible woman, and the one of the best storytellers I’ve ever met. She also has a special magic for helping others share their story.



Sarai Johnson is a best-selling author, sought-after speaker and creatrix coach. She lives boldly and is amazing at getting people to share those tough, but important stories.



Gisell Paula is the helpful human who keeps everything moving (and is NOT for hire!)



These incredible humans (and more) will be working with you at the SPEAK With Confidence Accelerator! ispeakwithconfidence.com



SPEAK With Confidence CLUSTER: Listen to this Cluster of Awesomeness here



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Getting It Together (just don’t get too attached)

Getting It Together (just don’t get too attached)

When President Woodrow Wilson was congratulated on introducing the vogue of short speeches and asked how long it took him to write them, he said:



“It depends. If I am to speak ten minutes,


I need a week for preparation;

if fifteen minutes, three days;

if half an hour, two days;

if an hour, I am ready now.”


 


Who's ready to jump into Chapter 4 of the SPEAK With Confidence podcast series?! Did you already finish Chapter 1: Brainstorming Like a Boss, Chapter 2: Just Be Yourself (but better), Chapter 3: Organize Your Talk (for maximum impact)? (Go listen if you haven't before you jump in here.)



For week 4, it’s all about outlining and writing your talk.


CRAFT YOUR TALK: Outline & write your talk


THIS EPISODE SIMPLIFIED: Before you can write your talk, give yourself an outline. My outline method isn’t meant to be super specific or word-for-word your talk, but it’ll give you a general outline for where things will be. Then we’ll use the outline to write your talk.



Let’s jump into Chapter 4: Getting It Together (just don’t get too attached). Now that you have your IP all in one place, know your brand, and understand The DISH Method inside & out, we’re going to organize it all in an outline. This outline will help you memorize your talk and will give you a way to see all the parts of your talk, make sure they fit and allow you to move things around before you write it all down.



You can grab the outline template here and use it to write a kickass talk.



Then you’re going to write out your whole talk. Yes, word for word. But don’t get too attached! You won’t be memorizing your talk word for word – or you'll sound like a robot. If you try to, I’ll tear it up for you – seriously.



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Check out Julie Lopez and David Rendall’s talk below for great examples on how to help your audience remember your message:




SPEAK With Confidence: Stop wishing you were on that stage & write the dang talk: ispeakwithconfidence.com I'll even send you the fancy-schmancy workbook you're hearing about.


SPEAK With Confidence CLUSTER: Listen to this Cluster of Awesomeness here.



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Organize Your Talk (for maximum impact)

Organize Your Talk (for maximum impact)

“You can't manage what you can't measure. But the most important things can't be measured.”


– W. Edwards Deming 

 


Who's ready to jump into Chapter 3 of the SPEAK With Confidence podcast series?! Did you already finish Chapter 1: Brainstorming Like a Boss & Chapter 2: Just Be Yourself (but better)(Go listen if you haven't before you jump in here.)

 


For week 3, let's get into the nitty-gritty of building your talk.


CRAFT YOUR TALK: The DISH Method


THIS EPISODE SIMPLIFIED: Putting a talk together requires certain elements – I call this DISH. Data Impact Story Humans – and once you include ALL of these elements, you'll hit maximum impact with whoever you're talking to. 



Let’s jump into Chapter 3: The DISH Method. Get the 4 elements of putting together an impactful talk. In this episode, I go through everything in the SPEAK With Confidence workbook about how to use my methodology: Data, Impact, Story, and Humans (DISH) to put together a talk – no matter how big or small. I'll cover why how you can use each of these elements to ask for your next raise or promotion, your 



You can also get more at DISHmethod.com after you're done listening – there's a workbook & videos as well! But first, get the 30min quick review below.


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As we cover chapter 3 of the SPEAK With Confidence course and workbook: The DISH Method: Organize your talk for maximum impact – check out the free course at www.DISHmethod.com to get a workbook and videos on how to rock your next presentation, conversation, or talk. 

 




 


SPEAK With Confidence: Stop wishing you were on that stage & write the dang talk: ispeakwithconfidence.com I'll even send you the fancy-schmancy workbook you're hearing about.


SPEAK With Confidence CLUSTER: Listen to this Cluster of Awesomeness here



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